Can A Question Stop A Conflict?

April 17, 2013


It’s amazing how quickly it happens. One minute everything is fine and the next . . . chaos. It’s a big argument or fight.

What happened? Most times one person says or does something that triggers the other person. Person # 2 feels attacked. Now Person # 2 may not be aware of feeling attacked, but he does attack back. It takes about 3 seconds and the whole situation explodes. I’ll bet you’ve experienced it hundreds of times; we all have if we’ve lived very long at all. Read the rest of this entry »

Life Is a Series of Conversations

April 4, 2013


The conversations are ongoing, all through the day and even through the night. Many of the conversations are going on inside our heads.

When the conversations are going on inside our heads, it’s likely there are no questions being asked, unless, we deliberately decide to ask questions.  We can pretty much bet the conversations are filled with assumptions and stories we’ve made up about what we’ve observed. Those kinds of conversations are often unproductive.

Think back to the conversations that have been going on in your head just in the last 30 minutes. Read the rest of this entry »

Unasked Questions Are Lost Opportunities

March 26, 2013


In the movie Family Man, Jack Campbell is shown a glimpse of an alternate universe in order to learn a lesson.

Have you considered; an unasked question can take us into an alternative universe? Either because of our assumptions/stories or our fear of asking a question, we end up being somewhere or thinking something we didn’t intend. Read the rest of this entry »

Do you feel reluctant when you think about asking a question?

March 20, 2013


Take a moment to think about how many questions you wanted to ask today and didn’t. Were you too busy to ask or were you concerned with how your question would be perceived? What you may not have given much thought to before now is what not asking those questions is costing you. There may be actual financial costs, or there may be costs to a relationship you have in your business. Or maybe a decision you’re about to make is lacking clarity, and perhaps clarity could be greater if you had been willing to ask a few more questions. Read the rest of this entry »

Continuing my energy journey. . .

April 14, 2011

It’s been 10 days since I began my new energy routine. What a difference!

10 days ago not only was my physical energy very low, I also found it affected me mentally and emotionally. This had been going on for some weeks. I’d never experienced this before and I did not like how it felt. You can read more in my previous post.

About two weeks ago a friend told me about an ABC News Investigative report she had seen and suggested I watch it. Click here to view

As a result of watching this clip, I made the decision to begin taking the product mentioned. As I said what a difference 10 days makes!

I have energy to work again! Do I suggest you take a look at it? Do I ask that you strongly consider it? What do you think?

What else can I do to get more energy?

April 9, 2011

Several weeks ago my energy began dropping.

I’m a coach. My job is to ask questions, to listen and to tell the truth. In order to do those activities, I’ve got to have energy. My energy is a direct link to my livelihood and my bottom line. You to?

What do you do when your energy is low, or you are tired and you have lots of action items on your to do list? Is one of your options to go to bed and rest / sleep? That was, one of my options. I listened. The sleep helped . . . some. And I continued to feel tired. I cancelled some appointments that were not absolutely necessary. I learned to do that a long time ago.

So I asked another question of no one in particular. What else can I do to get more energy?

A long time friend called and left a message. She said she had something to share with me, would I please call her. I listened and called her.

Someone told me years ago that if I am looking for an answer, I can open any book and the answer will be there. I’ve learned since then, that it doesn’t even have to be a book. If I am listening, and I have a question in mind, the answer might come from a person, a song, or even from my TV. Read the rest of this entry »

Laughter – The Best Medicine

November 13, 2009

Recently I heard Les Brown speak at our Send Out Cards convention. He has been one of my favorite speakers for years. I know Les as a fellow National Speakers Association member.

I have always been of the opinion that if I could take just one idea from a speaker and implement that in my life, that would be better than all the pages of notes I would put in a file drawer.

Les gave me that one idea.  I now keep it on a sticky on my computer desktop. Read the rest of this entry »

What Makes Your Day Good?

November 12, 2009

Several days ago I called a friend whom I had not spoken to in some time. I had been thinking about her and her birthday was also right around the corner. A birthday card was already in the mail, and I had a prompting to call her. I left her a voice mail message.

Today she called me. We had a conversation and talked about when we might see each other. Then I mentioned that I knew her birthday was in a few days and I wanted to sing Happy Birthday to her. I love singing Happy Birthday to people, it is something that many people don’t get the opportunity to experience. Read the rest of this entry »

Children Expand Our World

November 11, 2009

It’s so interesting to remember how I thought my life would be when I had adult children. Have you ever thought about that concept? My experience is not at all what I expected. I have 4 children, I guess I really should say I have 4 adults or perhaps 2 adult men and 2 adult women would be even better.

Each one has been instrumental in my growth. And the way I thought it would be, well that was a good thought. And then there are grandchildren. That is different from what I imagined as well.  Read the rest of this entry »

Using Your Library – A Good Habit

November 10, 2009

Have you ever had someone recommend a book and when you heard about it you were very interested in it? You may have written down the title of the book and then forgotten about it, that’s what I did. I used to have that happen often. As a result I missed out on a lot of good ideas. Along the way I chose to develop a new habit.

Whenever someone tells me about a book now, I take steps that I did not used to take. Read the rest of this entry »